A husband’s post on social media has gone viral for summarizing, in 2024, an old challenge for couples: is the man doing everything he can at home?

The Reddit post garnered more than 2,300 reactions and 1,400 comments in less than 24 hours.

A husband, 36, said he and his wife, 38, have been married for eight years. They have two children, ages 7 and 5.

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“She is a housewife,” he wrote, “in charge of all the housework and child-rearing while I work and support us financially.”

He immediately added a warning: “Before you start attacking me, listen to me.”

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“She is a housewife, she is in charge of all the housework and raising the children while I work and cover us financially,” a man recently wrote on social media about his wife (not pictured). She asked for advice and help from others with a serious relationship problem. (iStock)

He said the couple “had a little bad luck with debt a few years ago” and as a result said he works 50 to 60 hours a week “to help us get out of it.”

The man, who did not share his location but called himself “ThrowRA_boiyy,” said he is a carpenter, “so the days are long and sometimes I drive quite a bit to get to job sites. When I get home, I’m exhausted and practically eating , then I collapse on the bed.”

“I never thought I’d be one of those guys.”

He described the family’s weekend routines, noting that he takes his son and daughter to soccer games, then “comes home for lunch, while my wife goes to (her) club meeting.” reading, lunch with her friends, and then usually (not) some kind of walk or yoga class. She returns mid-afternoon, at which time she takes care of the kids.”

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The husband said that on Saturday nights he makes dinner, “maybe does a little laundry and cleans the floors.”

Then, on Sunday, “it’s the other way around. I go out with my colleagues. In the middle of the afternoon I come back, we bring our babysitter and we spend the night together.”

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A man’s wife recently told him that she needed to “start doing more things around the house. That I need to clean more, organize, take care of the kids, shop and cook,” the husband told others while seeking advice. (iStock)

He said he’s read a lot on social media “about men who don’t do enough at home, but I never thought I’d be one of those guys.”

However, recently, he wrote, his wife came to him “saying that I need to start doing more things around the house. That I need to clean more, organize, take care of the kids, shop and cook.”

“I don’t know physically how to find more time to contribute during the week.”

He added: “I know she does a lot and I’m in no way saying she doesn’t deserve a break, but I’m working really hard too. Especially right now. I feel like I’m doing the best I can.” with all the work I’m doing.”

He told others: “I explained this to her and she said I was being ridiculous. That I spend all day having fun at work with my coworkers, while she takes care of the kids and all the housework. Then I get to home and just eat and go to bed. This isn’t the plan forever, but I thought everything was going well for now.”

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He invited others to comment on the situation. Fox News Digital has attempted to contact the original poster for further comment.

In an edit to his post, the man later added: “I take care of all the bills, car payments and insurance dates.” He also added about his wife: “When she expressed her need for help, it wasn’t anything specific and when we had this discussion she didn’t give me any specific examples. And even if she did, I leave at 5 a.m. and I’m usually not back until 7 :30 pm

He said: “I come home and shower, eat and put clothes in the washing machine, unpack my work gear, play/read/clean up after our kids and I’m in bed by 8:30 pm I don’t know physically.” . how to find more time to contribute during the week.

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Saying he’s in bed during the week at 8:30 p.m., a man on Reddit (not pictured) described his busy work days as a carpenter. (iStock)

Many commenters on the social media thread had questions for the husband; One of them asked him if he left objects in the house and expected his wife to clean up after him and the children.

Another person wrote that the wife “lost any support she would have given him as soon as she said he could go to work and ‘have fun all day’ with his coworkers.”

A different commenter said, “I guess maybe she feels lonely during the week and needs other adults to talk to.”

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Overall, most commenters on the thread felt that he wasn’t wrong in the way he handled things, given the demands of his line of work. One person who was the primary financial provider in the household wrote, “This (the housework debate) was actually one of the reasons I ended up divorced.”

The Associated Press noted a few years ago in a new report: “Experts say that one of the reasons women say they do more housework and child care work is not just because they actually do more (which is usually be true) but also because men are not always aware of all the work that goes into it. That includes planning family activities and arranging dates and even things like providing emotional support to children.

“Women are also much more likely than their husbands to do daily childcare, grocery shopping, and dishwashing.”

Gallup also reported in 2020 that “although women make up nearly half of the American workforce, they still fulfill a larger share of domestic responsibilities.”

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The organization added: “Married or cohabiting heterosexual couples in the U.S. continue to divide household chores along largely traditional lines, with the woman in the relationship having primary responsibility for doing laundry (58%), cleaning the house (51%) and preparing meals (51%). At the same time, men continue to take the initiative in keeping the car in good condition (69%) and working in the garden (59%).”

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Gallup also said: “In addition to doing laundry, cleaning and cooking, women make the main decisions when it comes to home decorating in 62% of households. Although there is more equity in some of the other tasks , women are also much more “Their husbands are more likely to take care of the children daily, do the shopping, and wash the dishes.”

However, as Rebecca Brown Wright, a blogger and mother of three living in Utah, recently wrote: “Cleaning is an adult responsibility. It is NOT synonymous with motherhood.”

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By Sam